Most boys in a relationship don’t care too much about their girlfriend’s past, but they certainly can’t tolerate their girlfriend still keeping in touch with their ex. So when your current girlfriend is still in contact with her ex, should you break up with her?
This actually has a lot to do with psychology. Big relationship, which involves contemporary notions of breakup.
Previously, a social APP held a discussion on the topic "Do you accept being friends after a breakup?"
In this survey, more than 560,000 people participated, of which 48% said they could not accept it, 41% said they could accept it, and 11% were unsure.
Let’s analyze the deep psychological motivations behind each position.
48% cannot accept:
The great writer Shakespeare once said: You cannot be friends after a breakup because you have hurt each other, and you cannot be enemies because you have loved each other deeply.
From a psychological point of view, the main component of this part of the subject is the party who originally proposed the breakup. Because they don't want the feelings they no longer have to affect their new relationships in the future.
And the other small part is full of love and hatred.
41% can accept:
These people think that they and their ex have been together for a long time before falling in love. Friends, then we are more likely to remain friends after a breakup.
In fact, I still secretly like her, and I always have a glimmer of the illusion that I can reconcile as before.
Or, during the window period, you hope that the other person will continue to make up for your lonely and empty mind and body, or even after you find a new love partner, you can keep each other warm.
It’s not that there are no people who can truly be friends, there are very few, and these people will basically forget about this friend as time goes by.
Therefore, those who maintain long-term friendships after a breakup are scumbags.
11% are not sure:
These people have often loved truly and correctly.
Because they don’t know whether they should let go after a breakup and how they should get along with the person they love.
They are confused and don’t know which way is right, or that both ways are wrong. After all, for them, being friends and passers-by is a kind of harm.
This type of people are often reliable, but they are also prone to having spare tires.
Having said that, let’s try to deduce the psychology of girls:
Suppose I am a girl and the person I like wants to break up with me. Knowing that we are definitely breaking up, I may not be able to forget my feelings for him for the time being, and I am hesitant about how I should face it.
You may also cry in privateWow, but I will definitely choose to be a passerby.
After all, without the identity of a couple, those scenes of having fun with each other in bed and exploring each other's depths are embarrassing enough to think about. .
How much experience do you have to be able to be friends calmly... sit down and drink tea together and talk about the passionate years? Or take the time to look back?
So, we once fell in love, People who can still talk and laugh together after breaking up more or less have some passionate thoughts.
Then my girlfriend is still in contact with her ex, should I break up with her?
If there is no contact between the two parties, there is no need to be anxious unless we have some special complex.
If the two parties are still in contact, or are still friends who can talk and laugh happily, we can consider whether our current efforts are worth it.
After all, the plot of "My son's biological father has another man" is quite comic. As we all know, the undertone of comedy is tragedy.
Of course, if you both don’t plan to get married for a long time, the above can be ignored.
However, there should be very few situations like this in our lives, because most people start with the intention of falling in love.
Therefore, in most cases both parties still have to give each other basic trust.
Otherwise, from the moment the thought of distrust arises in your heart, from the moment you peek at the other person’s phone, from the moment you dig into the other person’s various social software, your relationship is destined to be in crisis. .
Remember, the secret of love is not only desire, but also proper retention of secrets and trust.
