In the process of love, many brothers always pay a lot unconsciously. When shopping, they take the initiative to buy things that girls like. They take the initiative to do the daily housework themselves. They give out red envelopes at any time during the New Year and holidays. They also do their best to girls. Caring... I thought I could move the other person by giving my whole heart, but I didn't expect that the other person didn't even take your efforts seriously. So why do you put in a lot of effort in love but get no results?
1. She doesn’t like you that much
If you give her what she needs and the way you give is right, but you don’t get a response from the girl. At this time, you actually need to consider whether you need to continue to pay, because sometimes blind giving cannot get the answer you want. Generally speaking, even people who are as cold as icebergs will be overwhelmed by the love and warmth of others. If you have given a lot and she still treats you aloof, then it is only possible that she does not like you that much.
Of course, another aspect of considering whether to give up depends on how much you like her. If you really like her, then you can continue to do what you like and work hard. If you like her <disappointed, Then it is recommended to stop losses in time.
2. What you pay is not what she wants
Many times, when faced with your efforts, girls No response, not because she doesn't like you, but because there is something wrong with the way you pay. This is the so-called "she likes apples and you gave her a cart full of pears". In this case, it is recommended to adjust the way of giving, and maybe there will be a turn for the better. So how should we adjust our payment methods?
1. Understand the balance of unequal relationships
If you have always been in a position of giving, you will naturally You will lower your status in the relationship and hand over your sovereignty to the other person. At this time, the other person does not have to be responsible for your emotional value. In other words, she will not be affected by your emotions, nor will she change her behavior. . Because in her opinion, your efforts are taken for granted, and your concession is a must.
This all stems from the emotional imbalance between the two of you. The person in a high position has the right to call it quits at any time and can exchange love of equal value with less effort, so why should she "condescend"? At this time, no matter what you do, you will have little effect, because an "infinite loop" will be created. The more you give, the more the other person will feel that your contribution is worthless. If they feel that if you continue not to respond, you will continue to change your tricks to gain favor, so it is better to take advantage of you and never respond. Therefore, we must learn to balance this relationship.
2. Don’t be constrained by sunk costs
Many people have this mentality: “I paid so much. Many, once you give up, notDid Bai invest in it before? ”, and then you invest more, but in fact, you cannot “recover” at all, but will fall into an “infinite loop”. (I have already detailed the “infinite loop” in relationships before, so I won’t go into details here) < /p>
So if you want to change the current imbalance, you must first break out of this endless cycle. Don’t be reluctant to give up your previous efforts, because they can’t bring you any help other than attracting you to continue investing. . Only by fundamentally changing the direction and method of giving can the root of the problem be solved.
Sometimes, you feel that your son has given a lot in the process of love, but the other person may not think so. This is why you. The fundamental reason why you have paid but not received the response you deserve.
